A friend recently used the term “patiently tending” to describe my caregiving for my mom. Isn’t that the best phrase? It feels almost hopeful, like a gardener sewing seeds all the while knowing that winter will come. It describes so well what it’s like to continue to meet my mom in the strange purgatory between life and death that she occupies.
When I was visiting her recently, I noticed anew a picture that hangs on her wall. It shows my childhood kitchen on Thanksgiving day many years ago. My mom is standing with her mom and her two sisters. Someone long ago glued that picture to a poem about Mothers and Daughters. As I read it, I realized that I was always going to be as ready as I could be for this.
Put Your Own Oxygen Mask on First 